Readings for each day of the week
Alcoholics Anonymous, pages 86 to 88; Step Eleven, morning
Friday
On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We consider our plans for the day. Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. Under these conditions we can employ our mental faculties with assurance, for after all God gave us brains to use. Our thought-life will be placed on a much higher plane when our thinking is cleared of wrong motives.
Saturday
In thinking about our day we may face indecision. We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it easy. We don’t struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while. What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with God, it is not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times. We might pay for this presumption in all sorts of absurd actions and ideas. Nevertheless, we find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more and more on the plane of inspiration. We come to rely upon it.
Sunday
We usually conclude the period of meditation with a prayer that we be shown all through the day what our next step is to be, that we be given whatever we need to take care of such problems. We ask especially for freedom from self-will, and are careful to make no request for ourselves only. We may ask for ourselves, however, if others will be helped. We are careful never to pray for our own selfish ends. Many of us have wasted a lot of time doing that and it doesn’t work. You can easily see why.
Monday
If circumstances warrant, we ask our wives or friends to join us in morning meditation. If we belong to a religious denomination which requires a definite morning devotion, we attend to that also. If not members of religious bodies, we sometimes select and memorize a few set prayers which emphasize the principles we have been discussing.
Tuesday
There are many helpful books also. Suggestions about these may be obtained from one’s priest, minister, or rabbi. Be quick to see where religious people are right. Make use of what they offer.
Wednesday
As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day “Thy will be done.” We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions.
Thursday
We become much more efficient. We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves.
It works—it really does.
We alcoholics are undisciplined. So we let God discipline us in the simple way we have just outlined.
Calendar readings
01 April 2021
Self was a liar, belittled me, criticised me, was greedy. It was never satisfied with anything I did. That’s what needed to be surrendered.
Spiritual Paul
02 April 2021
“As he continued I commenced to see myself as in as in an unearthly mirror. I saw how ridiculous and futile the whole basis of my life had been. Standing in the middle of the stage of my life’s setting, I had been feverishly trying to arrange ideas and things and people and even God, to my own liking, to my own ends and to promote what I had thought to be true happiness. It was truly a sudden and breath-taking illumination. Then the idea came—’The tragic thing about you is that you have been playing God.’ That was it. Playing God. Then the humour of the situation burst upon me: here was I, a tiny grain of sand of the infinite shores of God’s great universe and the little grain of sand had been trying to play God.”
Original manuscript of the book Alcoholics Anonymous
03 April 2021
Bless rather than curse.
Spiritual Paul
04 April 2021
“He really thought he could arrange all of the other little grains [of sand] about him just to suit himself. And when his little hour was run out, people would weep and say in awed tones: ‘How wonderful!’ So then came the question—If I were no longer to be God, then was I to find and perfect the new relationship with my creator—with the Father of Lights who presides over all?”
Original manuscript of the book Alcoholics Anonymous
05 April 2021
With God, if you ask, you get. If you don’t ask, you don’t get. That’s house rules. He’s the original Godfather. You leave—you die.
Spiritual Paul
06 April 2021
“My friend laid down to me the terms and conditions [of my new relationship with God], which were simple but not easy, drastic yet broad, and acceptable to honest men everywhere, of whatever faith or lack thereof. He did not tell me that these were the only terms—he merely said that they were terms that had worked in his case. They were spiritual principles and rules of practice he thought common to all of the worthwhile religions and philosophies of mankind. He regarded them as stepping stones to a better understanding of our relation to the spirit of the universe and as a practical set of directions setting forth how the spirit could work in and through us that we might become spearheads and more effective agents for the promotion of God’s Will for our lives and for our fellows.”
Original manuscript of the book Alcoholics Anonymous
07 April 2021
If you can’t walk amongst the sick and love them, you’ve missed something.
Spiritual Paul
08 April 2021
“The great thing about [the programme on offer] all was its simplicity and scope; no really religious person’s belief would be interfered with, no matter what his training. For the man on the street who just wondered about such things, it was a providential approach, for with a small beginning of faith and a very large dose of action along spiritual lines, he could be sure to demonstrate the Power and Love of God as a practical workable twenty-four-hour-a-day design for living.”
Original manuscript of the book Alcoholics Anonymous
09 April 2021
None of us are perfect ... but God is.
Spiritual Paul
10 April 2021
“This is what my friend suggested I do. One: turn my face to God as I understand Him and say to Him with earnestness—complete honesty and abandon—that I henceforth place my life at His disposal and direction forever. Then: that I do this in the presence of another person, who should be one in whom I have confidence and, if I be a member of a religious organisation, then with an appropriate member of that body. Then: having taken this first step, I should next prepare myself for God’s Company by taking a thorough and ruthless inventory of my moral defects and derelictions. This I should do without any reference to other people and their real or fancied part in my shortcomings should be rigorously excluded—’Where have I failed?’ is the prime question.”
Original manuscript of the book Alcoholics Anonymous
11 April 2021
When you talk to a good God, He’ll give you good stuff.
Spiritual Paul
12 April 2021
“I was to go over my life from the beginning and ascertain in the light of my own present understanding where I had failed as a completely moral person. Above all things, in making this appraisal, I must be entirely honest with myself. As an aid to thoroughness, and as something to look at when I got through, I might use pencil and paper. First take the question of honesty. Where, how, and with whom had I ever been dishonest? With respect to anything … What attitudes and actions did I still have which were not completely honest with God with myself or with the other fellow? I was warned that no one can say that he is a completely honest person. That would be superhuman and people aren’t that way. Nor should I be misled by the thought of how honest I am in some particulars. I was too ruthlessly tear out of the past all of my dishonesty and list them in writing.”
Original manuscript of the book Alcoholics Anonymous
13 April 2021
You see, I know how this story ends—God wins. So there is no threat in the world.
Spiritual Paul
14 April 2021
“Next I was to explore another area somewhat related to the first and commonly a very defective one in most people. I was to examine my sex conduct since infancy and rigorously compare it with what I thought that conduct should have been. My friend explained to me that people’s ideas throughout the world on what constitutes perfect sex conduct vary greatly. Consequently, I was not to measure my defects in this particular by adopting any standard of easy virtue as a measuring stick, I was merely to ask God to show me the difference between right and wrong in this regard and ask for help and strength and honesty in cataloguing my defects according to the true dictates of my own conscience.”
Original manuscript of the book Alcoholics Anonymous
15 April 2021
People worry about what’s round the corner. I don’t. I know what’s round the corner. It’s my Higher Power. So there’s nothing to worry about.
Spiritual Paul
16 April 2021
“Then I might take up the related questions of greed and selfishness and thoughtlessness. How far and in what connection had I strayed and was I straying in these particulars? I was assured I could make a good long list if I got honest enough and vigorous enough. Then there was the question of real love for all of my fellows including my family, my friends, and my enemies: had I been completely loving toward all of these at all times and places? If not, down in the book it must go, and of course everyone could put plenty down along that line. (Resentments, self-pity, fear, pride.)”
Original manuscript of the book Alcoholics Anonymous
17 April 2021
If you can talk to God, don’t you think he’d be able to answer back?
Spiritual Paul
18 April 2021
God is the source of all that is good, all that is true, all that is right in my life. So I give thanks daily for the inspiration and guidance that lead me step by step to my highest good.
I am surrounded in a warm glow of divine light and love, and my faith in God is strong and sure. My faith opens my mind to new wisdom and new ideas, leading to a greater understanding of myself and others.
Inner wisdom leads to new perceptions, and I begin to see a greater picture of my life. With determination and purpose, I strive to get out of my own way and allow divine wisdom to guide me on my path to good.
Anonymous
19 April 2021
God’s first message: stop talking about you and start talking about Him.
Spiritual Paul
20 April 2021
Treating the substance, not the form
Whatever it is that irritates me: don’t resist the evil. Embrace it. What is it that it is bringing up? What do I wish they would do? What feeling would that give me? Now: that thing that you’re lacking, you go out and give that away to others. That’s called treating the substance, not the form.
Anonymous
21 April 2021
Forgive the other person quick—there’s no need to hurt longer than you need to.
Spiritual Paul
22 April 2021
The same theme keeps coming up in my morning prep-work. We don’t ask for too much; we ask for too little. ‘The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams’ (Eleanor Roosevelt). ‘The Lord is able to give thee much more than this’ (2 Chronicles 25:9). Yes, we are limited if we count only on our own abilities, but there is a Higher Power within each of us in which all things are possible. I know I did not create myself. I know there is an infinite intelligence within each creature expressing life through us.
Al Kohallek
23 April 2021
Drop it like it’s hot.
Spiritual Paul
24 April 2021
The ego
Atomic bombs cannot destroy it.
Yet it does not really exist.
Its job all day long is to convince you that it does.
Anonymous
25 April 2021
Spend more time believing and less time thinking.
Spiritual Paul
26 April 2021
When kids have a party at a bowling alley, the parents tie balloons to the gutters so that the bowling balls are bounced back into their lines and hit their targets, however badly they’re bowled. This is God’s kindness to us.
Anonymous
27 April 2021
The only purpose for my head is to have something to put my hat on.
Spiritual Paul
28 April 2021
You’ll never have heart trouble believing in God.
Spiritual Paul
29 April 2021
Getting it
We try so hard to hang on to the teachings and ‘get it’, but actually the truth sinks in like rain into very hard earth. The rain is very gentle, and we soften up slowly at our own speed. But when that happens, something has fundamentally changed in us. That hard earth has softened. It doesn’t seem to happen by trying to get it or capture it. It happens by letting go; it happens by relaxing your mind, and it happens by the aspiration and the longing to want to communicate with yourself and others. Each of us finds our own way…. Let everything stop your mind and let everything open your heart.
Anonymous
30 April 2021
Know that you’re not alone.
Spiritual Paul
01 May 2021
Alcoholics say to God: ‘Don’t worry. I can see you’re busy. I’ll take care of all of the worrying and struggling for you.’ That’s pride.
Spiritual Paul
02 May 2021
If you are suffering from lack, limitation, emptiness, or strife, this is the result of nothing more and nothing less than a separation from God, who is the source all power.
Powerlessness is the inability to change ourselves or others. With power, the only thing that can be changed is us.
Either God is everything or God is nothing; either God is able to give you that power or he is not. If he cannot, he might as well be nothing.
Anonymous
03 May 2021
Fear says: ‘Unplug the phone.’ It wants to separate you, to make itself your master.
Spiritual Paul
04 May 2021
Before the fourth column of the resentment inventory, the Book suggests ‘being prepared to look at it from an entirely different angle’ (page 66). The angle we’ve been looking at things from is the angle of God being nothing, so we are relying on the tools of Selfishness, Dishonesty, Self-Seeking, and Fear. The angle to look at things from is the big picture ...
What is the entirely different angle in this case? Look at the world from their angle: page 90, ‘put yourself in his place, to see how you would like him to approach you if the tables were turned.’ This is the big picture. This is God’s angle. This is God’s perspective. See also page 52: ‘apply to our human problems this same readiness to change our point of view.’
Anonymous
05 May 2021
I was craving heart-felt communication, and it was finding it in AA that hooked me.
Spiritual Paul
06 May 2021
‘The foolish person seeks happiness in the distance, the wise person grows it under his (or her) feet.’ (James Oppenheim) A.A. has taught me to grow, where I’m at, the fruits I want to eat and share. Our Program shows us how we handle the weeds and the vine-ripe fruit with loving gratitude. Father I know You are within all of Your creatures doing the works called Life. I know You know only Truth and Reality and are not bothered by our illusions. I know that You are always Present. I know that You are all Power. I know we and I can turn within to You for all my needs for carrying out the mission You gave and give me. I have no concern because of my personal ‘reality’s’ limits; I only need to remember to call on You within me. As soon as I know I don’t know, I return to You within. ‘I won’t leave home without You.’
Al Kohallek
07 May 2021
Fear is implicit faith in a negative result. If you can be afraid, you can have faith.
Spiritual Paul
08 May 2021
I know You will not Will me to do or be anything You and I cannot do. I know I don’t have to beg for anything You Will for me. I know it is good for me to ask for all I need. When I ask You, Father, for everything, this is my affirmation that You are my One Source. This aligns my consciousness with You. I know this life You gave me is a vehicle to carry out a tiny part of Your Whole worldly expression. I honour, Father Your Divine Design within each of Your creatures, here to do their tiny part of Your Holy Wholeness. I know there is only One Source, One Life in Whom we live, move, and have our being.
Anonymous
09 May 2021
Today, I’m not isolated, I’m insulated.
Today, I’m not stressed, I’m blessed.
Spiritual Paul
10 May 2021
My understanding is quickened through prayer and fasting. Prayer is seeking conscious union with our Father within. I am fasting from what is wrong for me and I am feasting on what is right for me. I am seeking to fully align myself with the Divine Law of life, our Father’s Love and Will. Come let us carry out our tiny purpose for coming to this world.
Al Kohallek
11 May 2021
All the people who’ve had a go at me for believing in God, ‘Silly old Paul, with his belief in God.’ God’s done far more for me than they did.
Spiritual Paul
12 May 2021
My day goes much better when I am thinking positive thoughts and ideas instead of negative ones. I do even better when I am dwelling on constructive thoughts and ideas. Constructive thinking also includes some site-work: clearing a space before building our heart’s desire. Such thinking can be overrated, however; it is mostly dealing with surface matters. It is like moving furniture in a room; the room will look different and function differently, but it is the same room. For sure, our attitude can be much better, and our dealings with others will reflect that, but it will not change our character. Practising the presence of our Higher Power, prayer, and meditation, do change our character. Our spiritual activities open us to intuitive wisdom and spiritual discernment. The real change in our character comes by grace not by works. Our good works and loving service are the fruits of prayers and meditation.
Al Kohallek
13 May 2021
Try to spend more time believing in your heart rather than thinking in your head.
Spiritual Paul
14 May 2021
In 1923 I was in the real estate business in Los Angeles. I had a picture on my desk of an old man with a white beard down to about his navel, and the caption was “I’m an old man, and I’ve had many troubles, most of which never happened.” I like that!
Chuck C
15 May 2021
Should we work with practising alcoholics before we have taken all the steps ourselves?
I think that the very moment that a guy decides he wants what we have and becomes willing to go to any length to get it, he is ready to work with alcoholics. Not that he tries to carry the message to alcoholics, but that he tries to carry the alcoholic to the message. As soon as we have decided that we want what’s here, we could tell anybody, “Look I found a place that seems to manufacture sobriety; A bunch of guys that are doing something about their drinking. They have impressed me very much, and I’m going to a meeting. How about going with me?” So, you carry the alcoholic to the message. The book says, “Obviously we can’t transmit something we don’t have.” That’s what you’re referring to. But you don’t have to be anything but kind to carry a message. Really, that’s all. A little love.
Chuck C
16 May 2021
... much rain wears the marble.
Henry VI, Part III, Act III, Scene II
17 May 2021
The answer is not in the problem, the answer is in the answer. I worked on my problem for 10 years, and the more I looked at the problem and the harder I worked on the problem, the greater the problem became. It was just like fertilising and watering and cultivating the weed. It grew out of all proportions.
Chuck C
18 May 2021
Never despair, but if you do, work on in despair.
Edmund Burke
19 May 2021
I must have decided wrongly, because I am not at peace.
I made the decision myself, but I can also decide otherwise.
I want to decide otherwise, because I want to be at peace.
I do not feel guilty, because the Holy Spirit will undo all the consequences of my wrong decision if I will let Him.
I choose to let Him, by allowing Him to decide for God for me.
ACIM
20 May 2021
God is with those who persevere.
Quran 8:46
21 May 2021
Physical society comes from not drinking. We don’t drink today, and after a while we are physically free from the effects of alcohol. But until we become emotionally stable and mentally stable and spiritually somewhat stable, we’re not sober. Sobriety is the ability to live comfortably, peacefully, and joyously with oneself.
Chuck C
22 May 2021
“EVERY PROBLEM CONTAINS the seeds of its own solution.” That significant statement ... underscores the important fact that the solution is built into every problem. This chapter will tell how to find that solution. It will show how you can handle your problems. Here again, you can if you think you can. Almost invariably people assume that a problem is inherently bad. Whereas, on the contrary, a problem may be, and usually is, inherently good. When the Lord wishes to give you a great value, how does He go about it? Does he wrap it up in a glamorous and sophisticated package and hand it to you on a silver platter? No. He is too subtle for that. More than likely He buries it at the heart of a great big, tough problem and watches with anticipation to see whether you have what it takes to break the problem apart and find at its centre what might be called the pearl of great price.
Norman Vincent Peale
23 May 2021
I doubt very much if our value as a counsellor equals our value as a listener. If you can get the guy or the girl talking, if you can get them talking—this is the deal. In my own case, if I’m talking to somebody new, the one thing that I listened for is the first attempt at a belly laugh. This ain’t no big deal; you can’t get serious. An alcoholic cannot take a preachment or lecture. We know all about the preachment and the lecture; we’ve given them to ourselves a thousand times. We know exactly what they’re going to say before they say it. And so the sharing, and getting them to talk and being a good listener, gives the counsellor more value than talking himself. We’re not experts on anything. It’s the simple little thing that opens the door, it isn’t the profundity. Nobody ever got sober on profundity. It’s the little things.
Chuck C
24 May 2021
The answer, of course, is to turn to your good, sound mind—to think. Just think. All the answers to your problems are resident in your mind, but they are being blocked off because of your strong emotional reactions, even panic. One thing is sure; the human mind will not function creatively when it is hot. Only when it is cool—absolutely cool—will it deliver those factual, rational, intellectual insights which produce solutions that solve. All the time, deeply buried in the unconscious, a process of problem-solving is going on. Usually, ideas to meet the situation are trying to float to the surface. Remember that your mind always wants to help you, and will, if you permit it to do so. But panic, hysteria, even relatively mild emotions keep the surface of the mind in a state of disturbance, making it impossible for the great insights to rise from the deeper levels of consciousness.
Norman Vincent Peale
25 May 2021
Many of you’ve heard me tell this. I was talking at the Bob White group many years ago on Santa Barbara and Van Ness, and there was a drunk in bad shape sitting right in front, and it came time for him to light a cigarette and he couldn’t do it. He couldn’t get the things to mate. He struggled and he struggled, and after a while a little old lady that was sitting next to him reached over and took his cigarette in his match, and lit it, and put it in his mouth. The next year I was there at the same time and this guy had his first birthday, and I thought, “well, I must have done pretty well!” so I was prepared to get a nice compliment, you know, when he got up to take his birthday cake. But he said the reason he was back was not what was said or done in the meeting, it was the fact that this little old lady had lit his cigarette for him. This thing doesn’t depend on profundity or expertise. It’s love, and love is patient. Love is patient.
Chuck C
26 May 2021
So when a tough problem enters your life and you tend to become tense and “uptight” about it, just practise becoming as cold mentally as you can. Then say to yourself, “O.K., this is the problem. Let’s examine it and carefully study its component factors. Let’s calmly consider its implications. Let’s think, really think and only think. In no case shall I react emotionally.” When you approach a problem in this manner, your mind will immediately go into action. All your mental and, yes, your spiritual power will be released. Your mind will take hold of the problem and literally shake ideas out of it. In addition to your own cool, rational thinking, I suggest that you also make use of prayer. What is prayer but a form of thought transmission? By means of it you can draw upon the power of the Divine Mind where all wisdom reposes. Prayer is actually a line of communication along which come insights, intuitions, fresh understandings. With two calm minds working on a problem—God’s mind and your mind—you’re in. What else?
Norman Vincent Peale
27 May 2021
Another one that I love to think about happened at the La Habra group. I talk there on Friday before Christmas every year, and ten or twelve years ago there was a guy sitting along the wall—there were benches along the wall. And he was leaping—he wasn’t shaking—he was leaping! I went over and sat down beside him before the meeting started, and I put my arm around the guy and said, “son, this ain’t no big deal. If you don’t drink, if you don’t take that next drink, in three days you’ll be pretty nearly well physically. Just put it off, don’t take that next drink—it ain’t no big deal. Make a game out of it and go for three days without a drink. See what happens to you.” And for years, at least once a year in some meeting, he’s gone by me and he gets right up to my left ear, and he says “son, it ain’t no big deal.” And then he goes on about his business.
Chuck C
28 May 2021
Believe that problems do have answers. Believe that they can be overcome. Believe that they can be handled. And finally, believe that you can solve them. Belief is an extraordinarily powerful force. Send out positive belief thoughts and they will strongly tend to bring back belief results. Even as unbelief thoughts will turn off success, so real belief thinking leads to successful achievement.
Norman Vincent Peale
29 May 2021
“We all come from the same root, but the leaves are all different.”
John Fire Lame Deer, LAKOTA
We all come from one Great Spirit but we are all different and unique. Nothing in the Great Creation has a twin that is identical. Even children that are twins are different. Every single person is extremely special and unique. Each person has a purpose and reason why they are on the Earth. Just like every leaf on a tree is different, each one is needed to make the tree look like it does. No leaf is better or worse than the others—all leaves are of equal worth and belong on the tree. It is the same with human beings. We each belong here and do things that will affect the great whole.
Great Spirit, today, let me see myself as a valuable contributor to the whole.
30 May 2021
CITY OF LIGHT
“And I will be lifted up from the earth, will draw all men unto me” John 12:32
Never try to force other people to accept spiritual truth. Instead, see to it that they are so favorably impressed by your own life and conduct, and by the peace and joy that radiate from you, that they will come running to you of their own accord, begging you to give them the wonderful thing that you have. To do this is to make your soul truly the city upon a hill that cannot be hidden because it is the City of God. This is to let your light shine to the glorifying of your Father which is in Heaven.
Emmet Fox
31 May 2021
Laugh and the whole world laughs with you; cry and you cry alone. Laughter is an outer expression of an internal joyful heart, even when we don’t know the source of that joy. With the gift of faith in our Father’s grace, we can know the Source. Sometimes a joyful heart just springs up. Sharing the programme with others, knowing we can make a good difference, causes us to do it again.
Al Kohallek
01 June 2021
Getting to know ourselves sounds simple and easy, and it is at the current level, but we are far more than this. AA gives us the tools to chip away much of what we are not, which opens us more and more to grace. If we are willing to accept ourselves as we are for now, we can awaken to our created individual Self.
Al Kohallek
02 June 2021
... spend some time, every day, being totally committed to practising our programme, and see what happens.
Al Kohallek
03 June 2021
Knowing ourselves means being willing to be with ourselves alone, and willing to share ourselves; in other words we feel ‘part of’ instead of separate and alone. Our frantic search for meaning turns in to an enlightened spiritual journey. We realise that we really do have choices and we are responsible for those choices and our actions—and we want to be. We learn how to turn within to the silent invisible presence and awaken to our unique created Self.
Al Kohallek
04 June 2021
In conscious union with the creative power within, we become co-creators, instead of illusions-makers. We can fill our lives with expressions of our loving heart’s desire. Go away with yourself and spend some time together with all your parts, getting to know your wholeness. Practise this until you are great company, and then go and give it away in loving service. Come let us love one another. Thy love, thy will be done.
Al Kohallek
05 June 2021
Am I convinced that any life run on self-will can hardly be a success?
Am I convinced that YOUR life run on MY self-will can hardly be a success?
Am I convinced that MY HOME GROUP run on MY self-will can hardly be a success?
Am I in collision with someone or something?
Even though my motives are good?
Am I living on self-propulsion (current agnosticism: keeping God out and powering everything through ego)?
Anonymous
06 June 2021
ACE: assimilate, circulate, eliminate
Assimilate the new ideas, let them circulate, and eliminate the old ideas to expand your consciousness: you are trapped by your old ideas; you’re carrying a small cup to the ocean and concerned that the ocean waters filling your cup are too limited. It’s the cup that’s the problem: the cup is your ideas.
The trouble is, it’s not just the things I think are bad that form the cup, it’s ALL of the things I think, including all of the GOOD ideas with GOOD motives and intentions! These block me as much from God as the terrible ones.
Meditate on the subtleties of your current agnosticism. Where is there a lack of honesty, openness, or willingness (HOW) to give these areas in their entirety to God?
Anonymous
07 June 2021
Tradition 4
Every group is autonomous; every individual is autonomous. Every group has the right to be wrong; every individual has the right to be wrong; every individual has a right to be on absolutely the wrong path, and we cannot presume to interfere in it. Continue to celebrate everything they are!
Anonymous
08 June 2021
They say another thing. They say that anything that’s worth doing is an end in itself; that anything that’s done as a means to an end is self-robbery. Now, what does that mean? I had, we’ll say, fifty men working for me. Thirty-five of them worked for a pay check. They lost five days and lived two out of every week. They worked for a pay check. Fifteen of them worked for fun. They had a picnic! They never lost any time, and they were my premium men. They got more money than anybody else, and they lived seven days a week; lost no time. Anything done as a means to an end is self-robbery. Even to be good for something is self-robbery; even if it’s being good to go to Heaven. It’s pretty good motivation, but it’s self-robbery, because there’s no barter in this deal, no barter at all. We do it for free and for fun because we love it. Fascinating. To be good for nothing; this is the freedom of life. Just to be good for nothing; that’s not self-robbery; that’s for free and for fun.
Chuck C
09 June 2021
I get a big thrill out of looking over a vast sea of faces like this with a feeling that possibly some small thing I did a number of years ago played an infinitely small part in making this meeting possible. I also get quite a thrill when I think that we all had the same problem. We all did the same things. We all get the same results in proportion to our zeal and enthusiasm and stick-to-itiveness.
Dr Bob
10 June 2021
What makes you think that you can handle emotions like jealousy and anger and resentment? If we could have handled those things we would have handled them twenty years ago. There’s no way that you can handle a thing like that. You’ve got to get rid of it. They’re children of the ego. They’re obsessions of the mind. And the only way to get rid of them is to get rid of the human ego, in surrender.
Chuck C
11 June 2021
There are two or three things that flashed into my mind on which it would be fitting to lay a little emphasis. One is the simplicity of our program. Let’s not louse it all up with Freudian complexes and things that are interesting to the scientific mind, but have very little to do with our actual AA work. Our Twelve Steps, when simmered down to the last, resolve themselves into the words ‘love’ and ‘service’. We understand what love is, and we understand what service is. So let’s bear those two things in mind.
Let us also remember to guard that erring member the tongue, and if we must use it, let’s use it with kindness and consideration and tolerance.
And one more thing: none of us would be here today if somebody hadn’t taken time to explain things to us, to give us a little pat on the back, to take us to a meeting or two, to do numerous little kind and thoughtful acts in our behalf. So let us never get such a degree of smug complacency that we’re not willing to extend, or attempt to extend, to our less fortunate brothers that help which has been so beneficial to us.
Dr Bob
12 June 2021
Now, this Upanishad says this: ‘the whole world is the garment of the Lord. Renounce it and receive it back as the gift of God.’ What does it mean? It means that as long as these things were important to me, I couldn’t have them. I beat my brains out for thirty years to get the things I thought I was born without, and ended up at the bottom of the snake pit. I wasn’t a fast-buck artist; nor was I a confidence man. Then I put in twenty-five years trying to add to, and all the things I beat my brains out to get are mine, and infinitely more so. When they’re unimportant to me, they belong to me. ‘The whole world is the garment of the Lord. Renounce it and receive it back as the gift of God.’ It’s beautiful!
Chuck C
13 June 2021
My morning preparatory work is filled with suggestions that have the same message: to let our Father have His way with me. ‘Be still, and know that I am God.’ ‘I step back and let God lead the way.’ ‘God has no office hours.’ ‘Our scientific power has outrun our spiritual power. We have guided missiles and misguided men.’ ‘Let go let God.’ Are we like a lifeguard sleeping on the job while those in the turbulent sea of life are drowning, while people around us are going down for the count? Can I be a life-guider?
Al Kohallek
14 June 2021
I think losing yourself in life guarantees finding yourself in God. Guarantees it, because all you’ve got to do is to get rid of the roadblocks. You lose yourself in life and find yourself in God. And so I wouldn’t, if I were you, spend another five seconds trying to find self-worth or anything else. To find yourself, yes. To realise that whatever it is you’re looking for is right here inside you—what you’re looking for you’re looking with; what you came here to get came with you. Everything you’ve ever wanted to know you’ve always known, and everything you’ve wanted to be you’ve always been, but it’s covered up. It’s covered up, so we uncover and discover. Forget about you—to hell with you. Maybe you’ve got a little better break on that than I have. Maybe you have, and maybe you haven’t. Let the chips fall where they may. The beautiful thing about this deal is not to get serious about yourself, to make the whole deal a game. A play of life upon itself. And to have fun at it.
Chuck C
15 June 2021
What would a normal person do in a circumstance like this? What would a grown-up do in a circumstance like this? What would someone who trusted God do in a circumstance like this?
Father Tom W
16 June 2021
I find so many of our people in AA, even in the Grapevine, writing about self-esteem, building self-esteem. I hear people get up here and talk all the time about ‘you have to learn to love yourself before you can love anybody else’. I am most grateful this is not the case. I never spent any time trying to build up self-esteem or trying to love me. I wouldn’t have taken me with a large dowry. I hated my damn guts. But I got busy doing things our book suggests, and it wasn’t trying to learn how to ‘self-esteem’ me or to love me so I could love you. I don’t think that’s the way it is at all. Francis says, ‘For it is better to love than be loved. It is better to understand than to be understood. For it is in giving that we receive, it is in forgiving that we’re forgiven, and it is in dying to self that we awaken to eternal life.’
That’s exactly what we’ve been talking about ever since we’ve been down here, exactly what we’ve been talking about. I don’t believe that an image of me would add anything to my life at all. I haven’t any more an image of me than I have of a walrus. I’m not interested in an image of me, that’s not why I’m here. I’m here to share me with anybody that wants me in love, and let the chips fall where they may. I’m not even interested in your opinion of what’s happened, except when you want to give it to me. That’s not my deal. I love you, and that’s all I have to do. That’s what I’m interested in, that’s my deal. It’s not my deal who you love or what you love, or what you think. That’s your deal. I love you, period. I don’t even have to concern myself with what you think about me. I’ve got no image at all of me.
Chuck C
17 June 2021
Pause before you speak. But remember you don’t necessarily need to say anything at all.
Father Tom W
18 June 2021
I said a while ago that, in my opinion, the gift of God was made at the foundation of the earth. I’m not the first guy that’s ever said that. It’s written, ‘fear not, little flock; it’s the Father’s good pleasure to give us the Kingdom.’ It doesn’t say you’ve got to earn it. It is written, ‘take no thought of the morrow what you shall eat, what you shall drink, or wherewithal you shall be clothed.’ The Heavenly Father knows what you have need of before you ask him. It is written, ‘whatsoever you desire when you pray, believe that you have it and you’ll receive it.’ Now, how in the world are you going to believe that you’ve got something that you haven’t got? How’re you going to believe it? There’s a trick to it. You’ve got to know that the gift of God was made at the foundation of the earth, and that God’s will for you, His child, is fulfilment, peace, and joy; and that every good and perfect gift is from His hands. When we recognise this, we then know that what we might pray for is already ours. It’s already ours. The gift of God to His kids. No barter.
Chuck C
19 June 2021
We are co-creators in His service, in His image and likeness. We plant the seeds—the thoughts and feelings—we want to grow and bear fruit. I choose to plant the seeds our Father gives me, into the ground He has prepared for me. ‘The fruit of the Spirit consists in love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.’ (Galatians 5:22) These are the seeds already planted within each of us. ‘It is the involutionary representation—the tree contained within the seed—of the evolutionary expression.’
Al Kohallek
20 June 2021
Q: Upon waking with negative thoughts, how does one establish a relationship with God?
A: I think this is what we’ve been talking about all along. Praying without ceasing. I find no difference in a prayer and a serious thought. They’re the same thing. As we’ve said since we’ve been in here, fear or worry is a prayer for something you don’t want to happen. To live in the conscious awareness of the living presence of God. I don’t even much like the ‘Our Father’ prayer (even though I talk about it a lot). ‘Our Father’. God. I talk about our Father a lot, but this relationship that we’ve been talking about this weekend is much, much closer than a father–son relationship. As I said, I’ve got two sons someplace in Southern California; I don’t know whether either one of them is. That is impossible with my relationship with my own God, because God is that which I am. God is that which I am. I couldn’t breathe, I couldn’t be, there would be nothing, I would be extinct, but for God. Because God is life, and there’s no way to be separated from God in reality.
Chuck C
21 June 2021
When I’m disturbed, the apparent external source of disturbance is a gift. It is not the cause. The cause lies within me. The external trigger is merely pointing to something that was within me all along.
Particularly when the reaction was disproportionate, inappropriate, or untimely, I am not reacting to the situation but to a memory, namely what this situation reminds me of. That is where either forgiveness or an amend lies. Clear that up, and the present reaction will change.
Marie M
22 June 2021
The only separation there is, is conscious. The feeling of conscious separation from; ‘left field’. Very real as an experience, but not reality. So I don’t think that we ought to wake up feeling any different than when we went to sleep, or feel any different than ten minutes after we get up. Now is the deal. How is it with me, right now? If I had to get up and start praying right quick to feel good, I don’t think I’d feel good when I got through praying. I think you ought to feel good before you start to pray. Again, I don’t know when my prayers start and stop. I feel like Brother Lawrence a little, in that deal. Because I like to live in the conscious awareness of the Living Presence, God, in a relationship with everything around me. Everything around me. So I think that’s the thing to get through your head: that now is the time. You see, this is so very vital to me, because tomorrow was always the day I was going to straighten up and fly right. But tomorrow never got here. Every time I came to it was now, and I was thirsty! So I took a drink. Tomorrow never got here. Again, I don’t think I have to be in any particular position to retain this feeling of the Living Presence of God. I don’t think that it happens in a church or in the mountain or in the temple or in Jerusalem. It’s in my own mouth, that I might know it and do it. So that’s the only answer I have for that.
Chuck C
23 June 2021
Just do the next right thing
Take a step, step again
It is all that I can to do
The next right thing
I won’t look too far ahead
It’s too much for me to take
But break it down to this next breath, this next step
This next choice is one that I can make
So I’ll walk through this night
Stumbling blindly toward the light
And do the next right thing
Frozen II
24 June 2021
Now for a last thought. The easy way is the right way. The tough way is the wrong way. There’s an easy way and a hard way to do this programme. The hard way is to try to do it yourself. The easy way is to know that you can’t, and to recognise the need for help. I have never asked God one time, in twenty-nine years, to keep me sober. Never asked Him once. I’ve thanked Him a million times, but I’ve never asked Him once to keep me sober, because that’s not the way I read my book. The way I read my book, it says, ‘here are the steps we took.’ When we take them, something happens; when we don’t take them, nothing happens. So, as I told Father Barney, ‘I’ve never asked God to keep me sober.’ He asked, ‘why not?’ I said, ‘I think that’s not His business. I think it’s my business to do these things, and His business to take care of me. And He does it. I don’t have to tell him what to do about His business.’
Chuck C
25 June 2021
Imagine God saying: “Live in me. Think how completely I belong to you. I have joined myself inseparably to you. Once you are in me, be assured that all I have is yours. It is in my interest and honour to have you live fruitfully. Just live in me. You are weak, but I am strong; you are poor, but I am rich. Just live in me. Surrender wholly to my inspiration and direction. Just trust my love, grace, and promises. Just believe. I am totally yours. I am the vine; you are the branch. Live in me.”
Adapted from the writings of Andrew Murray
26 June 2021
There are many times when even prayer is like praying up a chimney. No way can you seem to make any conscious contact with anything. Everything’s futile. You have no purchase at all up there on the end of that line. That’s what the book means when it says, ‘When everything else fails, get you a wet drunk.’ Because, you see, when we’re feeling futile, we want something and it isn’t happening. But there’s no way that you can want something when you’re working with a wet drunk. No way. You can’t think about yourself when you’re working with a wet drunk. That’s one place where you give all your attention, interest, and love to the person at hand, even if it’s just simply to outmanoeuvre him. To neither be the pukee or the puker in that case! So we’ve got to get ourselves off our mind.
Chuck C
27 June 2021
These obstacles, however, are very real. The first, and one of the most difficult, has to do with forgiveness. The moment we ponder a twisted or broken relationship with another person, our emotions go on the defensive. To escape looking at the wrongs we have done another, we resentfully focus on the wrong he has done us. This is especially true if he has, in fact, behaved badly at all. Triumphantly we seize upon his misbehaviour as the perfect excuse for minimizing or forgetting our own.
Right here we need to fetch ourselves up sharply. It doesn’t make much sense when a real tosspot calls a kettle black. Let’s remember that alcoholics are not the only ones bedevilled by sick emotions. Moreover, it is usually a fact that our behaviour when drinking has aggravated the defects of others. We’ve repeatedly strained the patience of our best friends to a snapping point, and have brought out the very worst in those who didn’t think much of us to begin with. In many instances we are really dealing with fellow sufferers, people whose woes we have increased. If we are now about to ask forgiveness for ourselves, why shouldn’t we start out by forgiving them, one and all?
Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
28 June 2021
I have a theory of my own: I can’t solve a problem. No way can I solve a problem, and I haven’t tried it much in these last twenty-nine years, because I’ve expected guidance and direction. If I wake up to the fact that I’m all tied in a knot, working on something, and I’m just completely rigid, and I recognise it (subconsciously, I’ve been messing with this thing and beating my brains out), then this is my little deal, and it works for me right along. As I said to you, I share everything with my own God, the good, bad, and indifferent, and, in this case, I say, ‘Look, Dad, I’m beating my brains out over this problem, and I don’t know the answer. You do, and when you get ready to give it to me, I’d certainly be glad to have it. Sure thank you.’ And I dump it and never look at it again. I just dump it. That’s it. And in a very short time I’d find out that it either wasn’t a problem in the first place (which was about fifty per cent of the time), or I had the answer.
Chuck C
29 June 2021
Many of us reach a point we find acceptable and stop growing.
Bob B.
30 June 2021
Most of us are trying to change ourselves through muscle.
Bob B.
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